A Wonderful Trend I Am Discovering

Dear friends, You should know that I still have availability on my calendar for your wedding this Spring and Summer.

Drop me a note and let’s meet or at least speak briefly on the phone.

This year, I have noticed a very wonderful thing: I have been so pleased by the number of people who keep God and their faith close to their hearts, even though they don’t have a regular church they attend. Marriage is a great time to consider your spiritual options. People think about family, and who or what is at the foundation of their life. I am often asked what church I attend, because they would like to go their also.

My recommendation is that you first try to identify the faith and churches your family attended, and secondly, try all kinds of churches before you settle down. I can tell you this (because I attend a lot of them), you will know where home is when you find it. If a church feels like home, then stick with it a few Sundays (or other worship days).

Once you find your home, stick with it. It can be tough getting up early on a Sunday, or getting a family together for that matter. But if it becomes part of your routine, you will find the reward worth it. Your weeks will seem more meaningful, and your life more stable and centered. Your faith becomes the backbone you need to get you through the week.

The second thing I have noticed is that many younger couples don’t attend church, and are a little afraid to speak to me about their faith, religion, and ceremony, because they don’t know what to say. They don’t know the words. They feel embarrassed.

Faith is a journey. God understands you don’t know all the words. The Holy Spirit is always around you, and you never need to worry about what you say, or what you don’t know. Frankly, a lack of knowledge should never become a barrier to your walk with God.

So chill out, don’t worry, and drop me a note if you would like to talk. By the way, my main ministry is not marriages, it is at risk youth and end of life spiritual needs (among others).


My Stand on Same Sex Marriage

My friends, Oregon’s ban on same sex marriage was struck down by a federal court. Many want to know my opinion about marrying same sex couples.

I personally think it is a wonderful thing. Love is the one law, above all others, that Jesus wanted us to follow. He said, “First love God, and love all others as you love yourselves.”  The Holy Bible, like the very Constitution of this country, was written with enough ambiguity to allow us to find the truth in our own thinking and in our hearts.

As many passages from the Holy Bible can be found that indicate acceptance of same sex relationships as can be found against it. We just not use the Holy Bible as a battering ram for our personal opinion.

My own faith, the Friends (Quaker) have long fought for Gay Rights as early as the beginning of the 20th century, as they did for Civil Rights in the 1830’s.

I do not find same sex marriage a threat to marriage whatsoever. It is an extension of confirmation that God wanted us all to love each other, as well as judge not others because none of us are without sin. That isn’t to say that same sex partnerships are sinners–I don’t believe that for a minute, but some faiths think so, and I believe it is wrong to chastise others until your own house is in order–and that shall come only when you reach the gates of Heaven for judgement.

Will I marry a same-sex couple? Of course I will. Above all, love triumphs. God Bless you. P. Michael

Oregon to Hear Findings on Same Sex Marriage Today

Dear friends, I want you to know my feelings about the same sex marriage ruling that will be handed down by a federal judge today, at noon.

I know many people are against same sex marriage, saying it is against the Holy Bible and against God’s law. I had the chance in the 1980’s to listen to a brilliant black activist in Portland who was also a minister of his church. I felt his “arguments” demonstrating the Holy Bible’s commandments allowing same sex couples were as compelling as the arguments against it.

Since that time, two things have been my backbone on this issue: First, God does not want any of us to judge each other. Heaven knows we are all sinners, and we should not stand judgement against each other on such personal issues as whom someone wants to spend their life with.

Secondly, Jesus Christ was asked, “What is the greatest Law that mankind must follow?” In other words, what is the one law above all others that Christ wanted us to remember. His answer was that we must love God with all of our hearts, and love our neighbors as our self. In other words, His number one commandment was to have love and peace, for God and all of God’s children.

There are those who pick and choose passages from the Old and New Testament to prove their points, but the power of Love and Peace above all others is hard to argue.

As a practicing Friend (Quaker), I point out that we have long held the stance of equality and rights for all Americans, starting with Civil Rights in the 1830’s, long before it was popular (to be kind), and for Gay Rights since at least the early 1900’s. In the case of Civil Rights, I am confident that stance has proven to be a sound one, and right by God. I also believe that allowing for Gay Rights (now the rights of GLBTQQ) will prove to be the right one. How can we deny anyone the right to love and worship God the way they choose?

For those who do not agree or understand, I hope you will find Peace in your hearts.

For more details about same sex marriage in Deschutes County Oregon, click here.


How Does a Wedding Proceed?

Often we go to weddings, but do not notice the structure of the wedding itself. As the officiating Minister of your wedding, there are certain things I must do, such as signing your marriage certificate and sending it in to the County you live in, and certain words I must use in the ceremony itself, but the rest is left open to your dreams and imaginations.

However, we must not forget to incorporate God into your ceremony. Here is a sample flow of a typical wedding ceremony I would officiate:

  • Spend some time with the bride and groom for counseling and preparation for God’s ceremony of marriage.
  • Time with family, if available,
  • Talk about the ceremony, special wishes, such as reading of vows or Scripture.
  • Wedding pictures
  • Wedding party rehearsal
  • Prelude music.
  • Processional music.
  • Seating of the parents.
  • Processional for the bridal party.
  • Bride’s processional and entrance.
  • Introduction and opening prayer.
  • Giving of the bride.
  • Parents involvement.
  • Lighting of candles by mothers.
  • Reading and/or first song.
  • Definition of marriage.
  • Blessing of rings.
  • Exchange of Rings & Vows.
  • Second reading or song.
  • Prayer.
  • Couple Unity.
  • Children’s unity ceremony and blessing.
  • Nuptial blessing.
  • Pronouncement of marriage.
  • Introduction of new couple (“Mr. & Mrs…”)
  • Breaking of glass (depending on faith).
  • Recessional – Bridal March.
  • Receiving Line.

These are examples of a typical marriage ceremony, but speak with me about specifics, and optional items we can add.

Contact Pastor Michael directly for more assistance: 541.610.6375

What about cost?

This is a subject that I do not personally like to speak about because I believe so strongly in the need to incorporate the Teachings and Blessings of Christ in our weddings and lives.

Weddings are stressful enough, and expensive enough. Put your heart at ease, and know that if you choose to show your gratitude for my ministry through a donation, it is most appreciated.

What is the range, I am sometimes asked? I know what the range is, ranging from neglecting my time to very generous expressions of appreciation. Simply do what is in your heart, and know I am most grateful to be part of your beautiful day.

In Peace and Love,

Pastor Michael

Contact Pastor Michael directly for more assistance: 541.610.6375

About Pastor Michael

About the Pastor (Minister): Michael is an ordained Christian minister with the authority to perform (officiate is the proper term) wedding ceremonies and abide by the legal requirements of the county you are married in. Michael practices the Friends (Quaker) religion, attends various churches. He studied and received his degree at George Fox College.

Pastor Michael does not minister through a church of his own, but focuses on special needs for Christian ministry, such as marriage ceremonies, funerals, end of life counseling and fellowship, and counseling teens from a Christian perspective.

He is a non-denominational minister.  open to all beliefs and religions, though his knowledge is primarily in divinity related to Christianity.

The Pastor enjoys singing–mainly modern Christian songs, and Hymns, and is involved with the local Opera. He is also an artist, photographer, sculptor, and dabbles in technology and other businesses. He spends a lot of time with his Bichon Frise (dog, though if you ask him, it is his son), and they wander trails and rivers, and pray and meditate.

Pastor Michael is a very kind soul. He is wise, a good listener, gentle, loves people and all of nature. He is quick to fill with joy, with sorrow, with compassion, but also to help those who need a guiding word, or just a hug.

Above all, he is a devout Christian, a repentant sinner, and forever seeking the Word of God, and living his life as He would like him to live.

Contact Pastor Michael directly for more assistance: 541.610.6375

Spring Weddings 2014

Hello my friends,

As we head into our Spring 2014 wedding season in Central Oregon, I realize there are many brides, grooms, and families who have no ties to a church or congregation, and may be looking for an ordained minister to help officiate their beautiful ceremony.

I am now taking appointments for the coming season, and I have to tell you, things get a little hectic this time of year.

The wedding industry is subject new fangled trends, music, styles, fashion, and traditions. In recognition of this, I want you to know I appreciate your need to individualize your special day, and that I am able to adjust to your needs and desires.

With that in mind, let me know what you need. As a non-demoninational ordained minister, I perform only Christian based weddings, and sometimes simple, non-Christian ceremonies. I do not perform weddings using the sacraments of other faiths (such as Judaism or Islam) because I am not qualified, though I can perform generic or Christian services, or services which include traditions of all inter-faith needs. I am not ordained by specific churches, such as the Catholic church. I do, however, officiate and provide spiritual guidance for all other Christian ceremonies.

It sounds distasteful to ask you to “book” your wedding with Pastor Michael as soon as possible, but you know what I mean.